Sometimes it’s so hard not to fly off the handle when the negativity is swarming around you, and you feel like you can’t shake it off. Today, I’m sharing ways to deal with negative people around you, whether it’s friends, family, or coworkers. Small changes make a significant impact.
Don’t Believe Everything You Hear
It’s not uncommon for friends and family members to assume that you should take whatever they say to heart. Don’t confuse caring with understanding.
The fact that a person is worried about you and your well-being doesn’t imply that their suggestions or input is worth it. I may know a lot about sewing, but I don’t know much about guitars or how to play them.
So, if I ever offer you advice on how to play a song on the guitar, run as quickly as you can!! My input would certainly have little or no worth.
When it comes to family and friends, they might be unfavorable regarding you, your strategies, and your viewpoints since they don’t have the expertise regarding your situation. Their lack of knowledge creates fear for their well-being and yours.
Distinguishing the difference between caring and understanding to receive valuable input is vital when dealing with negative people.
Release Needing Anyone’s Approval
As long as you feel you have to have the approval, authorization, and acceptance of your peers, you’re a target of their limiting beliefs. It’s best if you release wanting approval if you ever wish to have peace of mind. Easier said than done.
To begin today, ask yourself, can I release wanting (name of person) approval?
Take note of the feelings that come up and repeat the question repeatedly until you start to feel lighter and much more peaceful. Do this several times to reclaim your autonomy from negative individuals.
Stop Your Stinking Thinking
Often, we have issues with or feel negativity from reflecting on what we hold inside our minds. It’s like looking into a mirror. If you were content with your life or situation, it wouldn’t matter if people, family or friends, were antagonistic towards you. It would be laughable if you heard them say something negative because it wouldn’t hold any truth within.
Learning to be more positive is possible. It does take work. You can start by checking out books that broaden your understanding and surround yourself with positive, vibrant individuals. Changing your environment is part of changing your thinking as well.
Challenging yourself to overcome negativity and working on being your best self is like working a muscle. The more you work, the more it becomes part of your routine and becomes a habit. Your belief in what is possible expands and also grows at a speed you didn’t think possible. Eventually, you won’t have the headspace for negative thoughts.
Choosing to find the good in all things quickly becomes a snowball effect and turns into a habit that will change your life experience.
When negativity starts to creep in or someone is being negative with you, asking simple questions will shift your thinking:
~What’s good about this?
~What have I gained from this that makes me better?
~What have I gained from this that makes me stronger?
Ask yourself questions and redirect your mind back to the positive. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. The more you ask, the more insight you will receive. Trust in yourself to be guided and you will be guided.
Protecting your energy is the most important thing you can do for your well-being. There are times where you will have to make drastic changes like changing your environment and/or stepping away from friends and family until you have developed a strong sense of self. You come first before anyone else.
If you’re not in a good space, it will be hard to ever be around people that are constantly bringing you down. The best thing to do is figure out what works for you and how you can be at peace within. When you begin that change, your outside world will then begin to change. The more you practice the better you’ll feel. Making small changes is a start and that’s where transformation begins.
It’s a never-ending process because you will always be faced with negativity. It’s learning how to deal with each situation as it arises and not letting the negative energy seep into your heart. Don’t be hard on yourself if, at times, you do fly off the handle so long as you are aware of it and reel yourself back into that peaceful state. You’re human. Learning ways to deal with negative people will always be great tools to have under your belt.
Last Updated on 05/07/21 by Darlingdew Lifestyle Staff